Ejaculation and Energy - Differences In Male Tantric Sex Orgasms

One topic which comes up time and time again in discussion groups of all shapes and sizes is that of different types of male orgasm that can be achieved and, in particular, the full body energy orgasm versus the one we all know (and potentially love) of the ejaculation orgasm.

Ejaculatory Male Orgasm

If you’re a man and are sexually active in any way shape or form, from masturbation to penetrative sex of any kind and beyond, you will be very aware of what a classic male ejaculatory orgasm is and how it feels.

 
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I won’t go into detail on how to cause a male orgasm - i’ll assume we all know the basics on that one! But what is key to understanding is that in a traditional male orgasm, where semen is expelled and ejaculation occurs, along with contractions of the muscles in the genital area, the orgasmic feeling one experiences within the brain - that state of joy, bliss, pleasure, excitement and everything else - is NOT a result of the contractions in the pelvis itself. The contractions are a result of the orgasm - and result in sperm being pumped out of your penis.

As such, while we are traditionally taught that orgasm in men equals cum being pushed out - the truth is that this is not the case.

Obviously this is an enjoyable thing to do, and I am myself very happy to cum in this way and enjoy both the experience, sensation, but also working with the semen if the mood is right be it alone, or with a partner.

But, tantric sex teaches us that ejaculation is NOT related to male orgasm, and that as with women, where many different types of female orgasm are possible, it is possible for men to experience different types as well.

I’m going to make you cum like a girl

While I’d like to say that my partner, Shivapriya, saying this to me on date number one before we launched into first date kissing wasn't one of the reasons why I wanted date number 2, 3, 4, 5 and 6 to happen as soon as possible, I’d be lying. I was intrigued by this - I was interested I Tantric Sex, but had never been able to investigate it for real in the my previous relationships.

So, was she lying? No! What did she mean? I didn’t know at the time - but I do now.

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So, how does a man cum like a girl? Easy (well, not easy, but the answer is!). And that answer is - full body energy orgasms for men!

The first time I personally experienced a full body, energetic orgasm was at the careful hands of Shivapriya on a long weekend retreat in a secluded country house in England. Part of my first tantric sex ritual, where I was very much a participant but not a driver, I was treated to a set of feelings of bliss and excitement unlike anything I had ever felt before. My body convulsed with energy as it coursed through my chakras. I was ecstatic. I was emotional and on the verge of tears at times. The feelings we so profound, so amazing, so blissful that I didn’t know how to behave. I let myself go completely, something which was both exhilarating and difficult to do at the same time - I had no control, she was driving the orgasms around my body as we sat in reclined yab yum with penetration. But this wasn’t driven by penis and vagina. This was something else.

This experience totally changed my view of sexual pleasure and my understanding of what tantric sex truly is.

Almost every man I have ever met believes that orgasm only occurs in their cock. But this is so not true. Hell, I thought this before I was awakened. The truth is that the energy that courses around out body, particularly when conjoined with your partner, can be played with, explored, directed and discovered and as you move that sexual energy around an orgasm can be experienced in all different parts of your body.

So what is an energetic orgasm?

This type of orgasm, a full body ‘energetic’ orgasm, is so different from traditional, friction based, tension releasing ejaculation orgasm in men, that it can be hard to imagine or even impossible to believe - until it happens to you.

We think of sex as rubbing, with some kind of lube, and then a release. And that is true I guess at the base reproduction level. But you can move well beyond this.

A full body energetic orgasm, for me or women, where you experience multiple, rolling, riding the wave blissful orgasms for minutes and minutes at a time, is like comparing chalk to cheese.

The key is working out when the sexual energy is at a peak in your cock without going through the PONR - or Point of No Return - then taking that energy and moving it around the body. From my learnings to date, there are at least two ways of doing this. One is a Hindu related method, which Shivapriya employs, moving the energy through the chakras using locks like the Udiyana Bandha, and allowing that energy to moved dwell in those body zones.

 
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The method I prefer is more closely related to Taoism, and employs what I have come to know as “The Golden Circle”. Starting at the root chakra, the the muladhara chakra, when you start to feel the sexual energy peak in your cock and balls and it starts to feel blissful, carefully think of that energy as a physical beam of golden light, sitting in your root. Mentally imagine that energy moving up, along your spine, along your back to the crown chakra, sahasrara, where it ‘bounces’ around in the brain before beginning its journey down the front of your body working its way back down to the muladhara.

This circular motion, imaging the energy going up and then down in waves, will create blissful, full body energy orgasms inside your body unlike anything you’ve experienced before. When I personally practice this the feeling is so intense, so orgasmic, yet so prolonged that it’s amazing. Simply amazing. In fact, when we have tantric sex in this way, I don’t even feel like achieving an ejaculatory orgasm because I am so fulfilled from the energy that I simply do not need it.

What’s key to this kind of orgasm as well is that as a man, you don’t lose any energy and get to the Mr Floppy state as you do when you cum and shoot your load. This type of orgasm, and for me it’s exactly that Tantric Sex is all about, can go on, and on, and on as long as you want.

This is what Shivapriya meant when she said she could make me cum like a girl. Multiple times. No energy loss. For a LONG time.

So, have you experienced, as a man, multiple energetic orgasms? Are you interested in learning more about them?


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